a loved one
Congratulations! You have family or friends who love you and who want to assist you so that your life is easier.
You, the loved one!
Congratulations! You have family or friends who love you and who want to assist you so that your life is easier. Sometimes it’s not easy to give up independence, but do know that your caregiver(s) mean(s) well and that they are also struggling to keep you comfortable and to balance their caregiving role with other life aspects. You are definitely a TEAM now, and need to take care of its members for the wellbeing of all.
Guidelines for the caregiver
Assisting a loved one who needs support requires dedicated commitment and can be for a long period of time. Based on the link(s) below, you can find some guidelines to help you care for your loved one and for yourself.
Give yourself credit for doing the best you can in one of the toughest jobs there is! You may have not yet realized it but, in order to do this job well, you need support from other caregivers, take care of your own health, and accept offers of help.
Seek support from other caregivers. You are not alone! Join in-person and online support groups and forums. Update your family to diminish burden and depression. CARE GIVER ACTION FORUM
Managing your time
If you work outside the home, you must balance your job obligations with caregiving. Your employer-based support policies and programs may include benefits which can help manage your time, such as medical or family leaves, advising with specialists, flexible work hours or working from home.
The following link may be useful:
AARP’s juggling work and caregiving tips.
Learn how to communicate effectively with doctors and healthcare providers.
Check out this 24-minute video for specific tips and skills on how to effectively advocate for your care recipient:
Caregiver Resources – How to talk to your doctor.
Accept offers of help: Don’t feel guilty about admitting that you need help! It is impossible to go it alone. Caregiving is made up of many individual tasks, so create a list of all of the things that need to get done — cooking meals, mowing the lawn, filling out insurance forms, driving your care recipient to the doctor, helping her dress. Once you have your list of tasks, group them into distinct categories — personal care, household chores, transportation, other— and ask family, friends, and paid caregivers (if possible) for help. Suggest specific things people can do to help you!
Organize medical information so it is up-to-date and easy to find. Create a patient file checklist containing the patient’s medical history, medications list, insurance information, and legal documents. Here are some useful tips:
Caregiver Patient File Checklist
Make sure legal documents are in order
If you are managing your loved one’s finances, read this article to ensure that you have access to key legal documents:
Legal Documents Checklist
Be organized and have quick access to the following documents: power of attorney, will, trusts, recurring receipts, mortgage payments, property declarations, loan agreements, stock and bond certificates, retirement benefit statements, bank account information and other investments, insurance and health policies, social or disability insurance, other
insurance (life, housing, automobile), medical records and tax returns.
Resources for LGBT aging
We are an inclusive website and value diversity in healthy aging. This is a safe space for lesbians, gays, bisexuals, transgender individuals, and any other sexual identification. Here are some helpful resources for you to consider:
Fact sheets on:
Medicare Changes for Transgender Older Adults
Marriage, Medicare and Medicaid: What Same-Sex Couples Need to Know
Accessing Information on Medicare Benefits for LGBT People
Caregiving Family Care
Caregiver State List